“They” say one of the keys to a successful relationship is compromise. But people rarely talk about the role of empathy in negotiating a healthy compromise.
I think it’s because many people don’t really understand what empathy is. It is often confused with sympathy, which is all about sharing or partaking in someone else’s feelings. Or empathy is seen as a weakness or softness.
But empathy is neither of those things. You don’t have to feel the
Think of all the things in your life that have gone into building your opinions and stances, either directly or indirectly. Upbringing, past life events, current life events, media influences, familial influences—the list is extensive. So much goes into building who we are.
But once you understand how all those pieces of a person fit together, you can find the truest common ground, one that leaves everyone feeling respected and whole. It may even lead to an opportunity to educate or to enlighten one or both parties.
Empathy certainly is not easy. Especially when passions are high. I think it requires an element of detachment from one’s own emotions, which is why it usually comes after an argument, after you’ve had time to think.
It's a practice we all need to adopt, that's for sure.ReplyDelete
Good reminders, Marj.ReplyDelete